We all have that voice.

It shows up right when we’re about to take a risk, share a bold idea, or step into something new. It whispers things like:
“You’re not ready.”
“You’re going to mess this up.”
“You’re not good enough.”

That voice isn’t your gut.
It’s not your intuition.
It’s not your higher self.

It’s your Inner Critic—also known as your saboteur—and if you don’t learn to recognize it, it can quietly shape your decisions, your confidence, and ultimately your potential.

In this article, we’re going to unpack what the saboteur is, why it matters, and how you can begin to shift the conversation in your head from self-doubt to self-trust.

What Is a Saboteur?

The saboteur is a mental habit, not a truth.
It’s the internal voice of fear and limitation—a leftover from your brain’s survival wiring that tries to keep you from failure, rejection, embarrassment, or discomfort.

It may sound protective, but it comes at a cost. It tells you to stay small, stay quiet, stay safe. And while that might help you avoid short-term discomfort, it often robs you of long-term growth.

Psychologists refer to this pattern as self-sabotage. Coaches often frame it as inner resistance. I call it what it feels like: the voice that talks you out of yourself.

Why It Matters

The danger of the saboteur is that it feels familiar.
It doesn’t shout. It whispers.
It shows up as hesitation, as self-editing, as talking yourself out of something you were just excited about.

Here’s what it sounds like in practice:

• “I’ll wait until I have more data before I speak up.”
• “Someone else has probably already thought of this.”
• “What if I fail—and everyone sees?”

Over time, these thoughts don’t just delay action. They erode confidence.

And in leadership, sales, innovation—or any role where clarity and courage matter—the cost of inaction is often far greater than the cost of taking a risk.

3 Steps to Tame the Inner Critic

You don’t need to eliminate your saboteur. That’s not realistic.
But you can tame it.
You can learn to hear it—without letting it drive.

Here’s a quick 3-step process to help you take back control:

Step 1: Pause and Notice

Most of us are so used to the inner critic that we don’t even hear it anymore.
The first step is to pause and catch it in the act.

Notice when you’re:

• Overthinking instead of deciding
• Backing away instead of leaning in
• Playing it safe instead of playing to your potential

Self-awareness is your first layer of defense.

Step 2: Name the Saboteur

Give it a name. Label it. Call it out.

For example:

• “That’s my Judge talking.”
• “There’s the Avoider again.”
• “That’s my Perfectionist trying to run the show.”

When you name the saboteur, you create distance from it.
It’s no longer your voice. It’s just a voice—and not one that always deserves the mic.

Step 3: Reframe with Your Wiser Self

Ask yourself:
“What would my wiser, more courageous self say right now?”

The saboteur says: “Don’t mess this up.”
Your wiser self says: “Messy progress is still progress.”

The saboteur says: “You’re not ready.”
Your wiser self says: “You’re ready enough to begin.”

The more you practice this reframe, the faster you recover from self-doubt. Over time, you’ll shift from automatic criticism to intentional courage.

The Challenge

What’s one thing your saboteur has been talking you out of lately?

Is it writing the proposal?
Speaking up in a meeting?
Launching something you care about?

Whatever it is, don’t wait until the inner critic is silent—because it won’t be.

Instead, act in spite of it. Take one small, meaningful step without asking your saboteur for permission.

Because you are not your inner critic.
You are the one listening to it.
And you get to decide if it speaks—or stays silent.

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This article is part of the Rising Tide series—designed to help leaders rise above resistance and take courageous action.

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